Chappy 10 – No Closure…Toxic Relations


Life is lots like chemistry . Everything is in balance. Everything from money to love goes through a violent shuffles of energy until it finds equilibrium. Chemical Reactions like love, hope, care, generosity are endothermic, that means they absorb all the heat. Leaving you calm and peaceful.  They don’t leave any harmful residue behind. However there are some bad relations in this chemical lab. These  are like exothermic reactions. They generate lots of heat. Coughs fire and smoke. The reactions that never reach equilibrium are the worst. Sometimes we put a lot of time, faith, care, and love in relationships. But things don’t quiet turn right.

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Some of us are work in progress. While the others think they are above all. They think rules apply to everyone but them. They find themselves superior to the rest. When our path crosses such individuals we find ourselves embroiled in unequal equations, always at imbalance. Somewhat like a nuclear fusion.  There is Unending agitation and dangerous outcomes. These relationships are just like nuclear reactions, Difficult to control and painfully exhausting to monitor. You keep investing your heart and time in it, but never is it enough.

It’s better to pack your bags and leave before you invest everything. Megalomaniacs don’t think and feel like humans. They think they are super humans. No matter what you do it’s never their job or part . Life becomes a one sided See-Saw. So basically they are forever on the top,  While you are at the other end. Always waiting, always keeping your team grounded. But you see a See-Saw is only fun when both sides experience the high of the highs.

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It’s hard to imagine not being reciprocated with love for love and fidelity for fidelity. But not everybody can give. It takes a heart to give and take. Some hearts are cold and have learned to perpetually receive and never give.   Even after removing yourself from such toxic habitats, your heart may ask “Why?”

It takes a heart to give and take. Some hearts are cold and have learned to perpetually receive and never give.

The thing is that sometimes people have no regrets for their wrong doing. Some people never take responsibility for their crimes and some never pay for their sins. Karma may be a bitch. It’s a selective bitch.

When we receive unjust treatment, we don’t receive any answers.  Closure is not that easily achievable. Instead of sitting and tearing your brains out for “why did they this happen to me?” … You have to learn to find peace with no closure.  Stop looking for closure. It’s not everything as long as you find peace in your heart and you heal.


You have to learn to find peace with no closure.  Stop looking for closure. It’s not everything as long as you find peace in your heart and you heal.

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